When you’re in college, you’re thrown into a community surrounded by so many people your age with similar goals, interests, etc. This is especially true if you’re involved in organizations and/or live on campus. Being in this setting makes it so easy (for a lot of people) to make friends.
At UW-Whitewater, I stayed involved. I worked at the auditorium on our campus, I was a campus representative for the Disney College Program, I worked several internships, some outside of campus and some on campus, including an event and social media internship that kept me busy and involved with students on campus, expanding my network of friends.
But what about after college?
What happens when you move on to a new place where you don’t know anybody or when you move home and there are few friends around from high school? You might be lucky enough to make friends at your job, but work friends are always different than non-work friends. If you don’t have work friends – or you choose not to – then what do you do?
This isn’t a Blog post about how to make friends. I really have no idea how. I have amazing friends, but most of them live as far as 2,000 miles away (2,069 to be exact. Miss you, Shannon!!). I don’t see those friends, even the closer ones, very often. Life is busy. I have some friends in the area from work, and I love them. I have a crafty friend who I love spending time with doing old lady things like painting ceramics or going to wine and canvas nights. Dave just recently moved in, so I have that amazing relationship right at home with me. He’s always there for literally anything I need, and I couldn’t be any more of a lucky duck. Then there’s my sister. My built-in bestie. I say built-in, but I would choose her as one of my besties even if she wasn’t my sister. She’s my gym and Target buddy, my excuse to go shopping at rue21, and my main source of funnies and giggle snorts. BUT SHES MOVING. NOW WHAT DO I DO.
I’ve thought about trying to make friends at the gym. I’m there at least four days a week. I see the same people there every day. I feel like I should at least know their names. But it’s so difficult because everyone’s in their zone and doing their own thing.
I played softball in high school, and have been itching to play again. So, I thought about joining a league/bar team, but I am way too nervous to just join a team with people I don’t know. I have lost a lot of skill over the years, so I’d be pretty horrible.
I actually love my alone time, so I feel sort of silly for freaking out about this, but it’s nice to have a group of friends to spend time with. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the friends I have – you are all amazing, hilarious, and unique. I wouldn’t know what to do without you. Fer realz. I just worry that with everybody moving away and building their lives, that I’ll sometimes be lonely. (GOODNESS THAT WAS HARD TO TYPE) I’m not saying all the time. I obviously have Dave and my friend Molly still lives in town, but I feel like there are so many opportunities out there for me to meet people and experience new things.
Maybe I just need to be more brave and try new things. I can always drag Dave with me, too, huh? 🙂
Did you recently move to a new place and start over? What have you done to get out there and meet new people?